A balanced perspective most likely is the best response. Time spent on homework should align with the student’s age – a short time spent in elementary school, up to 90 minutes for middle school or junior high aged students and between 1½ and 2 ½ hours per night (not per subject!) in high school (Harris, 2006). Another suggestion is to multiply the student’s grade by ten to determine the appropriate number of minutes of homework per night (example – a fifth grader should have no more than 50 minutes of homework per night). If we want the best results, we’ll keep homework time within these time ranges with allowances made for individual needs of students and families.
It seems that every time we are about to do homework. My 9 Aspie starts getting defiant! I do give him sometime to "breathe" like an hour. During that time, he is either playing with Legos or playing on the computer or even playing a video game or drawing. That is his time to "regroup" so then we can proceed.
Well it is not happening. Yesterday and this by the way has been going on like "forever" some days better than others. But to tell you the truth, it wears me down, to a point that i get soo mad and i know he doesn't do it intentionally but his behaviour is too much!
I know kids at school say "word" that we at home don't say. At some point he may push my buttons and say a word in retaliatiion so he won't do his assignments, that really turn me mad.
But he knows at tiimes what he is saying and others because he heard it elsewhere.
I love my son sooooooooo very much. I want him to accomplish all of his studies and to be able to so for himself in the future. he is a great artist -lego -transformer maker lol and oves books . He has a varied curiosity for alot of things. His faveorite subject is Science. he loves cars. Trains anything with wheels.
He is thriving though once he gets home... he starts to be negative and says it is hard or anything under the sun NOT to do his assignments. So I help him then he is at ease. Though at tiimes he wants me to do his assignments. He is sneaky. Though he is bright but a bit lazy and i jsut want him to thrive in his academic endeavors and flourish each day.
I need help!!!!